Now, I feel like I covered this topic (or parts of it) extensively on various blog posts already such as Life, Insecurities and Faith in God but this topic deserves a post of its own. This feeling will be experienced by each and every one of us. Brokenness is an emotion that does not compare to sadness. Brokenness equates to feeling defeated, empty, and abandoned. It makes us give up on any hope we thought we had and we don’t think we’ll ever recover.
Sadness is something that is temporary. If it last longer than it should, that officially becomes depression. Brokenness and sadness can have similar effects but brokenness is a severe reaction that is felt when someone or something devastated us. The shattering of our hearts and the empty void within our soul is sensed.
Our brokenness sometimes makes us believe that we’ll never heal. Our pain blinds us. We feel abandoned. The pieces of our hearts are too many to count and putting back every single fragment together may never be done in its complete form. The thing is, a broken heart can never by fully repaired – IMO. Even if most of it is found because we are able to find happiness again, there is a piece of us that is still tainted.
Our suspicions of whether we will ever be broken again… Jumping in head first into anything is something we NEVER want to do. Some of us who took the chance and did/do not regret it, I salute you! Those of us who will never do that in order to protect our hearts, I salute you too! Having COMPLETE trust in someone will always be a disappointing move. I know it sounds a little harsh but it is unfortunately the truth (Life).
Expectations are set high or are barely set (because people do the bare minimum) and when people do not meet them, we’re let down. That is why I advise people to not trust a person with all of their heart (maybe only 80%) so even if they do disappoint or betray you, you will not severely affected and/or devastated by the outcome. We live and we learn.
I know some of my readers are questioning why I would suggest to never FULLY trust in a human being.
My friends…. we are all flawed. We sometimes break our promises. Purposely say things to upset others. We do things that are mean and nasty to get ahead. We intentionally and impulsively hurt people that love. We cheat and engage in behaviors that are morally wrong. Some of us take advantage of the timid nature of others and manipulate them to keep them weak and under our control. We put on a front, masquerading as this “angel” until our true colors starts to show. Killing and sexually assaulting innocent people. Wrongful convictions and disproportionate numbers of minorities being sentenced longer than necessary (legal system). People killing others because of preconceived notions about a certain group/culture. Racism and the division it causes. Pride. Greed.
We are all capable of doing these things to people and feeling certain ways. Some of us are good at hiding who we truly are. So if some of us are willing to have faith in humanity at this rate – good luck. Yes, I’ve met some good intentioned people who are genuine (or so I hope) but I am cautious because sometimes my trust puts me in pitiful positions. My naivety was always taken advantage of significantly because I always gave passes to people for the sake of it. My trust remains in the Lord 100%. 1000%. In Roman 3:4 – “God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written….”
People WILL backstab you when it is convenient. They’ll betray us for something they deem much more valuable/precious so be cautious about who you let in your inner circle.
In Trust Issues, I wrote about an incident that did not sit too well with me. Even when I was not in the wrong, I still got left behind. People will do that. People we thought were never capable. My friends, do as you wish. Just be mindful. For me, I will always try to be and remain my authentic self with any and everyone. I do not want to turn sour because of the way people did me dirty. Remaining kind is still very important to me. But as far as going all the way in with my trust… no thank you. I don’t think I’m able to full do that without second guessing people.
To reiterate, our brokenness comes from the very same people we thought were genuine! Or how about thinking that our careers will last forever? You see, we put all of our energy and might into physical things/people. Nothing on God’s green Earth is promised so to invest ourselves entirely in anything, might yield bad results. “Might”, because we never know.
Risks are taken and some of us are able to succeed. Others, not so much. Our jobs/careers are still tied to our bosses. He/She has the power to take away our financial prosperity if he/she so chooses. Being our own boss is always recommended but some of us are not equipped with the skills/resources needed in order to do that.
Our partner can betray our trust/love if they choose to. If they decide to go through with an ill-advised decision that can cost them their relationship, they will do so if they really want to. And unfortunately, we end up thinking that we are the cause of why our partner behaved a certain way – when that is not the case. It is solely on the partner and their inability to stay and remain loyal to the very people they claim to love. Either way – nothing in life is guaranteed.
It is OK to want to have extreme faith in people/humanity. Hoping that we all can put aside our differences and unite as one. That would be amazing. We all hope that deadly diseases can be eradicated and cures will be made available to anyone who needs it. But the truth of the matter is, we don’t live in that kind of world.
Our life is made up of twists and turns. Good times and bad times. Blessings and misfortunes. Faith and hopelessness. Life and death. Nothing is permanent. Do you want to have faith in things that will change at any fleeting moment? Well, the exception here is God. God remains one and the same. Before we were born, He was HERE. He was, is and will be always be HERE. My faith in Him is surely well kept because He has saved me from accidents that could’ve killed me or killed/severely injured other people. He has protected my heart from situations that would’ve personally crushed me. It is impossible to list everything He’s done for me so there is no need in trying to attempt that here on this blog.
As mentioned before, you’ll know when the good Lord intervenes if you receive unexpected blessings in a dire situation. Something that cannot be explained naturally, will make us think how in the heck did that happen? But SUPERnaturally, it is possible.
I hope what I write resonates with some of my readers. It is truly something to to think about.
To conclude, you may leave questions, comments and/or suggestions if you so choose. God bless.
