Friends/Acquaintances….. we all need them. Making long lasting, meaningful connections with other people who share similarities with us is always fun! Being able to go out (or even stay indoors) and enjoy our friend’s company can help uplift us. Having trustworthy friends we can rely on is one of the best feelings we can have. Having a shoulder to cry on when we are going through our darkest moments will make us remember who was there for us forever. However, there are different types/levels of “friends.” In this discussion, I will talk about three categories of friends. The loyal, genuine friends, the so so friends, and the sketchy friends.
Loyal Genuine Friends
Loyal, genuine friends are people who stick with us through our trials and tribulations. The good times, bad times, the okay times, etc. They do not abandon you for any reason whatsoever. You can almost consider them family. Heck, you CAN consider them family because they can be more loyal than blood. Your secrets are safe with them and vice versa. When something incredible happens, the first thing we want to call is that “friend.” That person can help alleviate the pain/frustration. Good friends makes us laugh (or at least try to), make us feel comfortable around their other friends, invite us to places, text/call and check up on us just because, will always keep it a 100 with us, will never do trifling things behind our backs, becomes our strength when we’re at our lowest, and are supportive about everything we want to accomplish. Also, y’all have that secret lingo that is understood by those who are in on it. Y’all are able to make fun of each other without getting offended. It’s a healthy relationship. All in all, friends that want to see us win are people we should keep at our corners.
So So Friends
So so friends are friends that are fun to be around but the relationship is not that deep. These are friends we normally go out to parties/clubs with. The gossipy friends that we talk crap with (whenever y’all link up, it’s always messy). We know we can’t really call them for something extremely personal because our friendship has never been that serious. We don’t know if we’re “doing too much” spilling our guts to them. They’re mainly about the FUN rather than the conflicts that comes with the territory. They occasionally check up on us.. but that could be only because they want to see if we’re free to go out that night. Or maybe they genuinely want to know. Either/or. They can also be supportive of our dreams/aspirations but can only wish us the best. Meaning, they probably wouldn’t like to get/be involved because they want to do their own things. Bottom line, they’re great to keep around for leisure activities but if we’re ever in a serious crisis, they might not want to be included.
The Sketchy Friends
The sketchy friends….. Hmmm….. There are things to cover here folks. First off, if they are unreachable whenever you need a favor (that will be repaid back), keep an eye on them. They get mad when we call them for help but when they need a favor or two, they expect us to do them. It’s normally one sided for the most part. We have to be cautious about what we say around them. They can use that to their advantage and tell our secrets to people that we do not like or know. Especially, when y’all fall out – expect your secrets to be published to the WORLD. Also, sketchy friends make us question their behavior and loyalty because what they do is inconsistent with what they say. For example, when you hear them talk rubbish and gossip about another person, but then they are out with the SAME person the same week? What? How Sway? Why insult them… just to hang with them at parties, bars, and/or gatherings? That is fake. It sort of makes you feel like they might be saying things about you behind your back huh? More than likely, they are. And let’s not forget about people we don’t associate ourselves with. If there are people that do not like us and our “friend” keeps reporting back to us about what they’re saying, why is it that those people are comfortable enough to gossip about me to you? Why are they at ease bashing my name to my “friend?” People that do not like us shouldn’t even attempt to fix their lips to say anything about me to a true friend. They know my true friend(s) is/are not with the mess and trash talk. They will call you out and make those haters feel stupid for even attempting to slander my name in their presence.
If it seems like whenever y’all hang out and he/she is always telling you about what someone said about you, ABORT MISSION. That gets annoying and truth is, we couldn’t care less about what people say about us. That friend is mixed in with drama. They either want a reaction from us or are trying to make it seem like they got our backs by reporting back to us about what our haters are saying. But ask them, “What did you say to defend me?” If they go blank, stutter, or they go quiet – chuck up the deuces. Be aware my friends. I tell you all of this so you know how to move with people. To be able to distinguish the real from the fakes!
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