What are your pet peeves? I know I have a few. There are certain things that rubs us the wrong way or irks us beyond what we can handle. It could stem from past experiences/situations or we’re around people who we know are full of BS, so we’re already put off by their presence. Am I right or am I right? We all have that one person! Anyways, let’s jump right into it, shall we? P.S. – These are not in order.
Firstly, when people cannot take a joke – that doesn’t sit right with me at all. Like why are you so serious? Lighten up. I am extremely goofy so I tend to make people laugh most of the time when they’re around me. When people come around me with a bad attitude for whatever reason, their vibe can be felt from miles away – even before they say a word. Their body language is off and their facial expressions are telling. Yes, I do understand people have bad days. We all go through battles in life. But I think we should also be mindful about the vibe we’re giving off. We don’t want people to be upset because of our moodiness, do we? I don’t think so.
Granted, when people are upset, they should avoid being in public gatherings because of irritation – unless they want to have fun and get their minds off of whatever it is that is bothering them. When it comes to me, I joke a lot. It’s one way I connect with people. Of course, not every situation calls for a joke but we must remember to laugh once in a while. So when people get offended or defensive, it’s really bewildering to me.
If I said something displeasing, I would much rather be informed about it than be scolded at. Furthermore, my intentions were not set on hurting the person’s feelings but rather on making them smile/laugh. (If I cannot joke around with you, there’s really no point in being friends IMO).
Secondly, another pet peeve – Liars. OMG WHY. Personally, I’m a truthful person. I pride myself on being upfront and direct. I believe that it is wrong to deceive people and we should want to be open and honest with friends/family. It’s funny how people think that what they do in the darkness will never come to light. It is harder to lie because we would have to remember what was said and keep it going without switching up the “facts.” Of course it never ends well because others will soon catch on to our contradictions.
BUT, there are times when people cannot handle the truth. Especially when they’re visibly distressed/troubled. Their mind is already racing with thoughts and to deliver the cold, hard truth right then and there might do more damage than good. In that case, I would sugarcoat or leave the issue to be discussed another appropriate time. However, coming clean should always be our motive. We would want it the other way around with us. If it was a mistake or we did it intentionally, we must own up to it. It is all about Self Respect. The way we carry ourselves will make others be more open into trusting who we are as individuals. Not to mention our conscious will be clean when we reveal the truth. Lying never ends well. It takes a lot of brain power to cook up a juicy fib. It’s not worth it.
Thirdly, I really dislike when people stare at me. Strangers. In public. With no blinking. Following my every move. It is beyond creepy. There is nothing that irritates me more than people staring at me for long periods of time and not saying anything. How RUDE. My face will instantly show that I am not fond of you. Sometimes I will creep them out by staring back at them until they look away. It’s like…. I don’t know if I have something in my hair or on my clothes. If I am blocking your way or I accidentally bumped into them a moment ago. If they think they recognize me from somewhere or if they just think I’m pretty. (Hopefully the latter).
I know…. some of you may question how do I know that they’re staring at me if I’m not staring at them. Y’all.. my peripheral vision is out of this world. Like I can spot people from a far distance without even glancing at them directly. I can also sense it. (Tell me I’m not the only one who can). And then when my gut starts tingling and the voice in my head is telling me to look up or to the side, well what do you know? There is someone watching me. I’m mostly right in these types of situations. It’s either they quickly look down, pretending they were not staring at me or give an awkward smirk. I feel weird staring at strangers longer than I have to so I don’t understand how people don’t find that bizarre when they do it to others.
Fourthly – rude people. It is not hard to be kind to people. It really isn’t. Being snotty because we’re either well to do, attractive or just because we feel like it, makes us shallow. That is not cute and it comes off as tacky. Granted, if people are rude to us, we might be rude back because that is a normal reaction. However, being rude from the start is wrong.
Last but not least, when people cannot admit that they’re wrong. When people cannot apologize for their mistakes because they’re too prideful. Oh my goodness!!! I do not understand the mindset of people who feel like apologizing makes them weak. Or that they can never do no wrong and they are never the ones who are liable for the cause of an issue. Then they try to make it seem like we’re the ones at fault. When we confront them with the facts of why they are the ones who screwed up, the arguments are endless. It is like talking to a brick wall. Of course, people like this are toxic. No questions about it. But I mean we choose whether we want to remove those kind of people from our lives or stay in the same predicament until we’re forced to leave. It depends.
You may leave questions, comments and/or suggestions if you so choose. Let me know. Thank you all for checking out this blog. God bless.
