This is mostly for all of my sisters across the globe but my brothers can tap in too!
Please do not rely on ANYONE to take care of YOUR necessities. Be your own woman/man. Independence is better than dependence. Reliance will eventually strip away our freedom because we’ll never be able to solely depend on ourselves to get what we want when we want it. However, what we want is halted because we do not have the means to acquire such things. We’re limited in options.
Dependence
It is unfortunate that some of us have a mindset that is fixed on having other people do our deeds. Of course, if you are a child, disabled, unemployed currently looking for work, injured and/or mentally unstable – you are obviously exempt. But for those of us who ARE capable of fulfilling basic needs but are unwilling to do so, a disruption of pattern has to be enforced. We shouldn’t get comfortable and take our foot off the pedal.
The imagery of chilling on the couch with an open bag of hot Cheetos right next to our stomach with a remote in one hand is a vibe that we all want to catch! However, that lifestyle is a luxury that we cannot all afford consistently. Yes, we can do that once in a while but to make that a habit will surely hurt our pockets in the long run. Depending on others to bring home the bread while we eat up all the food in the fridge is draining and unfair. That free time should be spent on being productive so we can help out around the house and feel a sense of independence.
Unfortunately, our significant other will tell us all the things we want to hear. Men mostly have tendencies to do this.
“I’ll take care of the bills.”
“You don’t have to work as long as you’re with me.”
“I’ll take care of everything.”
My friends, don’t be fooled. Anyone that makes us quit our job because they promise they’ll take care of us is trying to get us to be fully dependent on their assistance. Our partner should be supporting us to be sufficient on our own first and then help us achieve financial literacy as a team together. If we learn to be independent from the jump, we can get it done with or without a partner. We wouldn’t need anyone to take care of us because we’ve been handling our business LONG before anyone came into the picture.
Furthermore, I do know that there are situations that are unavoidable and we have no choice but to stay home. The Coronavirus took 2020 for a wild ride. However, it is important for us to adjust at any given moment and look for other alternatives to stay afloat financially, emotionally, mentally and physically. Expect the unexpected – whatever that means.
Conclusion
All in all, trying to maintain a household and being the breadwinner is extremely exhausting for a person to do by themselves. If they have a partner, the responsibilities should be equally split up. But I do agree that if the person’s responsibility is to take care of home duties, he or she should at least try to take up a side hustle to get some money for themselves. Just so they’re not left with having to fend for themselves financially if their partner decides to leave out of the blue one day (expect the unexpected).
Any other situation of financial dependency outside of what was mentioned above is not valid. To me, the only person stopping you from independence is you! But don’t worry, one way or another, you’ll learn to be your own person in time.
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