Hello friends! Back at it again with another discussion. This time, we’ll be examining the risks of dating “potentials.” He or she is not at the level they claim to be or where we want them to be but we stick around long enough to see how it plays out. We FEEL like it’s possible that they can grow and blossom into the person we know they can be. However, “potential” is not “exact.” It can happen, it may not. We’re “hoping” that they will mature with time. Do NOT date around for “potential.” (Especially if you’re seeking marriage). We should always base our decisions on the Consistency and Inconsistency shown by our person of interest.
People might put up a front and pretend like they have it together but in actuality – they don’t. And then when they fool us into thinking that they’re well off and we become interested, we find out later that we’re just settling for “potential.” They were not truthful about who they were portraying themselves to be and now we’re left having to see if they can elevate themselves to where they claimed/need to be.
We’re drawn to people who look/are confident, fun, smart, tall, loyal, loving, and/or hardworking. If we see a trait/physical feature that was displayed early on by someone we like – we want them. Then, when they show us their true colors, we either try to let it slide or cut ties right then and there. For those who try to let it slide to see if things will change for the better – don’t. They already pretended to be someone that they’re not to impress you. Why stay?
“He’s working on himself.”
‘Things will get better with her.”
Leave them how you found them. They were living a lie, do not linger around thinking things will change.
Dating “potentials” can be disappointing. If they are able to attract you by how they are, they might not see a reason in trying to better themselves. Why? They already have you. It’s all good. Why put in the effort? If people say they are about that life, we have to hold them accountable for that. If they say they are serious about you, they have to show you. When they say they’ll commit to you in a relationship and their actions proves otherwise – leave. And please, do not fall in love with words. When their actions do not match up, there is no “potential” NOTHING. Do not believe that he or she will change just because they say they will. They already betrayed your trust the first time around. There is no potential in being told lies.
Ex – They cheated on you numerous of times even though they said they would never. And then when he or she doesn’t cheat for a week, he or she has “potential” to be faithful. NOOO.
If we allow ourselves to be disrespected, then the disrespect will remain. He or she will think we’ll take them back because we did the first time. They’ll plead and promise until we give in. My friends, do not believe in words. Men lie, women lie. There is nothing “potential” about wishy washers. (People who are inconsistent in their actions). We should not allow ourselves to be hurt and stay hurt, in hopes of the person changing for the better. We deserve better than that! They do not respect us if they blatantly cheat, abuse, and/or lie to us to cover up their schemes. Potentials are sneaky. Make sure you hold them responsible for all the attributes/merits they claim they have.
Life is too short waiting around for “potentials.” It’s either they are about it or they’re not. Simple. Don’t play around about my feelings because you are unsure about yours. NO NO NO. The “do as I say not as I do” is a conniving act. They can continue to be unfaithful but when we return the favor, the world is ending. I’m not saying fight fire with fire BUT revenge is sweet sometimes…. Hey, you do what you want. Personally, I’ll just leave…. after I cut up all his clothes. Just kidding. Or am I? I am.
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