What would the world be like without gossip and hearsay? Boring? Weird? Better?
Each and every one of us have a story to tell…. about each other. One person says this about her and the other person says this about him. Once the story is told to another individual, pieces of that story has already morphed into another tale that was included or taken out of context. Then we are left with nothing from the original story because someone put their spin on it. It’s a cycle.
Furthermore, there are times when we do not befriend the person nor have we ever had a conversation with them but we have a lot to say about them because of what people tell us. We are already forming our conclusions about someone based off of what a third party said about them. The third party can either bash this individual because they had a bad experience with them or praise them but in the end, if we are running with stories the next person tells us, they’ve already succeeded in manipulating our opinions. Instead of finding out for ourselves, we made the decision to believe that whatever that was told to us is legitimate and valid. Therefore, we either blocked a blessing or we blocked a curse.
Gossip has the potential to destroy good reputations and there is a possibility that it’ll be difficult to redeem oneself if they are caught in the crossfires. Gossip spreads like wildfire. Each story is more twisted than the next. It’s geared towards lies more than anything else, IMO. People who entertain gossip about someone they dislike will believe all the negative things that is said. Rightfully so. They are not fond of that individual and all the hearsay that makes them look bad, makes them feel good. Am I right or am I right?
Hearsay about celebrities and other people we don’t know capture our attention because we love drama. If it doesn’t involve us, we’re tuned in because it is not our life that is being affected – it’s theirs. And we rather it be them than us…. right? That gives a chance to escape reality for a second. Even when our lives are in total shambles, when we hear about someone who is going through a slightly worse situation, we engage in the gossip. Nevertheless, there is a difference between gossip and telling it like it is. Let’s dive in deeper.
People often mistake gossip/trash talking with people who are speaking their truths. In other words – people may view it as the individual talking mess about someone else when in reality, this individual is simply speaking his/her truth and experience with the particular person in question. So when others are not speaking good about us, that is not necessarily considered gossip. They are genuinely expressing the displeasure of meeting us due to whatever reason. We cannot please any and every one so it is expected that there will be people who are not fond of us and vice versa. It is only gossip if there is an exaggeration of some sort with a bunch bells and whistles added in for flavor.
True Gossip
To start off, doesn’t it feel weird being in the middle of two rivals? We’re friends with both parties but these two do not get along. Being put in a position where we have to choose between two people closest to us is difficult. But honestly, if someone forced me to choose, I am not picking them. If they were genuine friends, they would know that I DISLIKE being put in a situation that I have no business being in. I will not be forced to pick a side if I didn’t personally involve/insert myself in their business in the first place. I dislike when people try to drag an outside party into drama and fill their ears with drama – attempting to turn them against other people that they do not like. Childish and weird.
However, the true gossip comes in when a person talks boldly behind someone’s back but they are quiet when the SAME person comes around them. They are saying all types of nonsense but deny it when they are confronted about it. It would be better if people kept their opinions to themselves if they are not willing to stand 10 feet down on what was said. However, if the individual IS saying things behind someone’s back but WILL say it to their face, that is not gossip. They simply have yet to see the person they are speaking of. Well, to me, that is not gossip. Gossip is more of throwing stones and hiding your hands – with an over the top, unrealistic storytelling of the person in question. What do you think?
Conclusion
Furthermore, people who willingly gossip about other people just because, will always find themselves in some mess. It’s a fact. You talk drama, you live drama. It could all be so simple if we mind our business. Truly. But I know everyone is different. People are naturally entertained when it comes to juicy scandals and controversy. It’s either we live for gossip (literally if it is our job to write about celebrities) or we try to avoid it most of the time (ignoring and moving right along).
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